
Loneliness is a terrible thing, both in real life and in Second Life. To miss out on human interaction is to miss out on something that can make you feel wonderful. I’ve been lonely before, and it’s an awful feeling. I feel fortunate now that I have a wonderful wife in RL who loves and supports me, a circle of RL friends and similarly, a circle of SL friends (who, if I’m honest, I’m probably closer with than the RL friends). (There’s also a circle of what Jennatar calles “real-life not met friends” whom I’ve met elsewhere on the Internet, but if we start getting into all that it all gets terribly complicated.)
I met a new friend a few nights ago, almost completely by chance. I was going along to a discussion group at The Village - this one was a rather more freeform “sit and chat” group for mutual support with, among other things, issues such as depression and anxiety, rather than the more structured discussions I’ve taken part in in the past.
This new friend (whose name I’ll be leaving out of this post in case she doesn’t want any “publicity”) was one of those people that you click with almost immediately and feel at ease with, being able to engage with them in conversation about personal issues close to both your hearts. We had a lot in common in terms of the way we felt about things - depression, loneliness and social anxiety have been a part of both our lives, so we had an immediate connection there… which by extension meant that neither of us felt pressure from the other to make unnecessary “small talk” - the bane of the socially anxious’ existence.
Despite this, we were able to talk at considerable length about all sorts of things, from the more personal things above to more general things that I guess were, in fact, “small talk”. It’s strange how some people immediately make you feel at ease, and you know it’s the beginning of a long and close friendship.
When this happens, it’s awesome. It’s happened many times to me in SL over my time on the grid, and it never stops being a wonderfully pleasant feeling. So I thought I’d take the opportunity to say “thank you” to all the wonderful friends who have made my life - both real and Second, whether I’ve met you in “reality” or not - better.
Thank you. :)